Take Care

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Don’t forget to do something nice for yourself today, as we can not take care of anyone else if we do not take care of ourselves.

Toni Braxton and Birdman Split

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Singer Toni Braxton and Rapper Bryan “Birdman” Williams appear to have called off their engagement. The pair became romantically involved in May 2016 and later made their first public appearance at the 2016 BET Awards.  Both took to Instagram this week as  Birdman posted  “It’s Over” on Tuesday  and shortly after Toni posted ” Starting a new chapter isn’t always an easy choice….but ALWAYS choose to be chosen. Cheers to a new year.”

Fans are taking to social media to voice their thoughts about the split, while the Braxton family has been very quiet about the matter. I have a feeling there might be more details to come.

Kalin Bennett: Autistic Rising Star

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 Kalin Bennett, is an 18 year old athlete from Little Rock, Arkansas who is making headlines across the country because he may be the first Autistic Athlete to sign with a Division I sports team. Earlier this month Bennett was recruited by Kent University, a Division I school because of his “stellar athletic record” according to NBC news. The now 6ft 10 inch Bennett did not start out athletically inclined. Like lots of autistic kids he was behind with some of his early childhood development skills as he did not start walking until he was 4 years olds and didn’t start to speak until he was 7. Having accomplished so much over the last few years, the Autism community is overjoyed with the fact that Bennett is breaking barriers. He says that he hopes to inspire other autistic kids and I suspect that will be yet another goal he achieves.

Dreams or Delusions

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Life sometimes leaves you questioning reality. You’re told to do good in high school so that you can get into a good college, and then do well in college so that you can get a good job. Next you’re told to embrace the entry level position offered right out of college so that you can build your resume. However, after more than a decade of skill set building and networking and you’re still not where you want to be in life you begin to wonder what went wrong. Have your dreams turned into delusions?

As the parent of a special needs child, I’ve had to modify the route I planned to take to get to my dreams but I didn’t think I would have to forfeit them altogether. The reality is that spending 9 hours a day in an office does not work for me because I have to get my son on and off the school bus 2 hours before most jobs want you to leave. Of course I am always looking for freelance projects and jobs that will allow you to work a portion of the day from, but they are difficult to find.

Am I to assume that the “Good Life” is reserved for people that don’t have special needs children? Hmmm… I didn’t get that memo when I was racking up student loan debt. I did read in the somewhere that “the race does not go to the swift, but to those who endure to the end.” On that note, I’ll continue to try to put together the pieces of this dream that used to be crystal clear as I don’t want them to shatter and be lost forever.

More Resources PLEASE

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The topic of resources and the lack there of for parents never seems to get old. America has several things that it proudly brags about being(Land of the Free, Home of the Brave, etc.) It sure would be nice if they would add “Most Thoughtful Country” to the list. It’s definitely not a stretch to say that if you are a hard worker, you can make a good life for your family. However, the two key words are work and family. So with that being said, parents need more resources and options for child care so that can work and provide a good life for their family.

The evidence of  this lack of support is always more visible in the summer time when children are out of school for as long as 2 months. Summer camps are typically a primary resource for parents and are great while they last. However, summer camps usually end 3 weeks before the school year begins leaving parents with limited options for safe and reliable child care.

I wish the elected officials that beg for our votes during election season studied their constituents needs more closely. People need more than tax breaks to live comfortably. Furthermore, life goes in cycles. Parents work to provide quality lives for their children so that they can in turn have meaningful careers and provide quality lives for their children. That very principle is why this country is considered great; I just wish it wasn’t so hard to keep it that way.

Black Panther Movie making History

If you’re talking about Entertainment and Movies one title will not elude the conversation, Black Panther. The Marvel Comics super hero movie was released February 13, 2018 and grossed $200 millon dollars it’s opening weekend and over $700 million in it’s first 12 days making it the highest grossing movie of 2018 and the second biggest debut in history(The Washington Post).To put those numbers in perspective, it earned more than the latest Star Wars release according to Forbes.com. 

Black Panther looks to be on it’s way to the elites $1 billion club, which only 8 other movies have made it to according to The Wrap. This action packed flick continues to exceed earnings expectations, therefore I suspect that we will be hearing alot more about the Black Panther movie within the next week.

Fergie’s National Anthem Fallout

The air in Los Angeles California was even more electric than usual as the 67th edition of the NBA All Star basketball game kicked off there last night at the Staple Center. The very name of the elites game leaves nothing to the imagination in reference to the caliber of players that were competing. Big names like LeBron James, Stephen Curry and Kevin Durant brought people from across the country to watch them compete. However, before the time clock started there was a different type of buzz coming from the Staple Center.

Singer Fergie ushered in the game with the singing of the Star Spangled Banner, but instead of everyone in the sold out Staple Center standing in silence to honor our flag, there was uncontrollable laughter in the air. Fergie’s sultry rendition of the National Anthem went terribly wrong and not even the players could keep a straight face. The Black Eyed Peas singer called herself a risk taker while  telling TMZ  I’ve always been honored and proud to perform the national anthem and last nightI wanted to try something special for the NBA. I’m a risk taker artistically, but clearly this rendition didn’t strike the intended tone. I love this country and honestly tried my best.” The apologetic Fergie spent the day trying to clean up the mess she made at the game, but overall it seems to have added to the All Star game buzz.

Single Parent Rant

Day in and Day out I move to the beat of an internal alarm clock. You see in my life nothing can have a minimized importance as everything is operates like a machine, and if one part isn’t functioning the entire machine will cease to work. From getting up at 6:45am to make sure Christian is ready when the school bus arrives, so that I can in turn start working, so that I can afford to pay bills, pay for cool preteen haircuts and clothing and do all the of the things necessary to run a household. And though this juggling act can be redundant, it can also be full of surprises.

I hate to sound whiny, but almost always the surprises are unpleasant. Surprises like my check engine light coming on when I start my car, or waking up with a body ache(which makes me move slower). However, like always super mom powers through and things work out. There’s just one thing(sigh)… I get tired sometimes. There’s so many have to do’s in life and very few want to do’s. For example, I WANT to go get a pedicure and not feel guilty about the 2 hours I spend doing it. I also WANT to go get a cup of coffee and not feel guilty about spending $5 on it.

Overall, most of my gripes can be lumped into the category of single parent ranting. With that being said I’ll close by saying that being a parent is the best and most meaningful gift I’ve ever received and that all of my griping will one day be cool stories to share with my grandchildren.